Imagine this: You’ve made up your mind to get to your goal. You have a clear vision on what you want to achieve, you have a plan to reach that goal, and you always take action. But success always eludes you, to the point where you feel there must be someone or something that is interfering with you. What’s happening?
Well, that someone or something is quite possibly your subconscious.
When you want to achieve success, it’s not enough to consciously believe you can do it. You’ll need to make sure your subconscious is on the same page as well. Unlike your conscious, however, your subconscious doesn’t rely on reason and logic, so you cannot simply *decide* that you believe in something subconsciously. Rather, it takes effort to change your subconscious thinking. Below are several methods that you can use:
The subconscious mind thinks in terms of pictures. Because of this, using pictures is an effective method to get to the subconscious. A vision board is a collage of pictures, with each picture representing a goal you have.
Everyone has the same 24 hours in a day. Why do some people never seem to be able to finish anything, and others are able to complete everything with time to spare? The trick is good time management. Below are some time management tips that I’ve found to be useful:
Write down what you do on a typical day
To manage your time effectively, you’ll first need to understand what you are spending your time on. To do this, jot down on a list what your typical day looks like. The format will be something like the following:
|11 pm – 7 am
|7 am – 8 am
||Breakfast and bring kids to work
|8 am – 8:45 am
||Commute to work
|8:45 am – 6:00 pm
Once you finish writing down your typical day, review it. As you review your schedule, think about the following questions:
1. What are the things that I absolutely do not want to change? For example, your may decide that the one hour you spend with your kids at night cannot be changed. As you contemplate how to optimize your day, that hour will not be moved to do something else.
In today’s world, we are always busy with everything that we need to take care of. Because of this, there are always things to worry about. What to say in the meeting tomorrow? Will I have time to finish the report by the deadline? Why is that guy I like not calling me yet? What will happen in the company reorganization? Will I get that promotion that I’ve been wanting for? It’s kind of interesting how our mind is filled with concerns and worries like these. As a result, we are always worried about what may go wrong, and always thinking about what to do about them. This is a big reason why people get depressed, because all they think about is negative things, things that make them nervous.
Are there ways to break out of this? You bet there are. They are:
The first thing you can do is to feel grateful for everything. Regardless of your situation, there is always something to feel grateful about. Feel grateful for the house you live in. Feel grateful for the love you have. Feel grateful for everything that’s working as it should be.
How do you feel when you feel grateful for someone or something? You feel happy, you feel good, and most importantly, you will feel positive.
Knowing your goals at the conscious level is the first step to achieve your dream, but this step by itself is not enough. Many people know their goals, and they try hard to get there. Yet, they often see no progress towards their goal even after years of working hard. What’s happening here?
That’s because their subconscious isn’t in sync with the conscious. As a result, even though you are consciously working hard towards your goals, your subconscious is putting up roadblocks that prevent you from getting there. You may see this manifest in many ways. For example, you can be in an ice skating competition. Even though you have practiced the routine perfectly many times, you end up falling during the competition. This can very well be because at the subconscious level, you don’t think you are good enough yet, and because your subconscious controls most of your body activities, that “I am not good enough” thought manifested itself in the fall.
To be able to achieve anything in life, the first step is to know what you want to get to. Without a clear goal, you can work as hard as you want, meditate as much as you want, and still get nowhere.
Here are a few things to remember about setting goals:
- Be specific. Most of us only have a vague idea of what we want to achieve. But to get to where you want to be, vague ideas won’t do. For example, your goal may be, “I want to be wealthy.” But what does it mean to be healthy? $100,000? $1,000,000? $10,000,000? And when will do you achieve this by? Three months? One year? Or ten years? You’ll first need to be able to answer these questions. Once you do, you’ll have a specific goal in mind, and you’ll know exactly where you are going.
Those who practice Law of Attraction sometimes complain that they have been consciously trying to visualize things and getting to the emotional state they desire, yet they do not see any progress. One main reason for this is because they are doing this at the conscious level, but subconsciously, their beliefs and thoughts vibrate at a very different frequency. Because most of our actions (and hence the energy we vibrate at) are from the subconscious mind, the vibrations from the subconscious win out, and the desirable outcomes are not manifested.
To become a better person, one thing you’ll want to do is to focus on the present. In this article, we will talk about what it means to focus on the present, and the benefits this approach will bring.
What does it mean by “Focusing on the present”? We think it means the following:
Pay 100% Attention To What You Are Doing Now
Our conscious mind is set up to handle one task at a time. We may think some people can multitask because they seemingly can handle multiple things in their brain at the same time. What the researchers tell us, though, is that those people do not multitask; they are simply very good at switching from focusing on one thing to the next thing quickly.
What this means is that if you try to do multiple things all at the same time, you’ll end up not doing any of it well because our brain is not set up to consciously focus on more than one thing at a time. Therefore, to focus on the present means that we focus on only the task at hand, and nothing more.
Interestingly categorized as a fiction, The Present by Spencer Johnson is really a self-help book (audio CD also available) that communicated its principles through a parable. In short, what the book is teaching is that, to be successful and happy, one needs to do the following:
- Being in the present
- Plan for the future
- Learn from the past
My takeaways of these 3 points are as follows:
Today, LeBron James announced his decision to leave the Miami Heat and rejoin the Cleveland Cavaliers via an article in Sports Illustrated. Compared to 4 years ago, when LeBron announced on TV that he was going to Miami, and did it in a way that pretty much turned everyone outside of Miami against him, this time he made the announcement with class.
This announcement also exhibited the following positive qualities:
Being happy is something that everyone wants. What most people don’t realize, though, is that you alone determine your happiness. You may think that you live in a world where you have no control of all the unfortunate things that could happen. That is true. But how you react to these things is still up to you.
Recently I’ve been spending time immersing myself with the concept of “Thoughts Become Things.” This is the idea that if you desire a certain outcome, you’ll want to start visualizing it in your mind, and only after that will you be able to manifest your desired outcome. You may have heard of the saying, “Be careful what you wish for. You may actually get it!” This illustrates the power of “Thoughts Become Things.”